“A wise woman wishes to be no one's enemy; a wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim”.
Woman, an inspiration to millions, a dream to work on and a first teacher of our life is only woman. World calls her by the name of Mother, Sister, Daughter and a wife, but the character is so strong that she sacrificed everything for her society and always looking and carving good for all.
She has to suffer a lot and go through peer-pressures of life, in balancing her relationship with the responsibilities in a family or a society. We have a lot of successful woman in our country India, but still the news on tracks about Rape, Murder, Dowry-deaths, Sexual-abuses, Obscene calls, Harassment and cyber crime is making rampant in our state of Jammu and Kashmir, where in Jammu is the city of Temples and Kashmir is paradise on the earth. If God is there to take responsibility for women-empowerment and honor, then paradise will follow the foot-steps of a woman”
There are nearly 22 districts in Jammu and Kashmir State, including Ladakh autonomous Hill Development council. The role of woman in every district is being put on testing-times. Hardly, an opinion is being framed for social and economical empowerment of woman. Our state is headed by a Woman, Chief-Minister, but still crimes against woman is increasing on a rapid speed. Female society is being only marched with passion to caste vote and suffers later.
The male dogmas is attached so hard, that a woman have to think 10-times to raise her voice against any crime or trouble she is going through. CEEOIndia visited nearly 118 villages across the state and interacted with 100 young educated girls across Jammu and Kashmir and questions were raised about the safety and security of young ignited souls.
Mostly issues were about woman-safety and security, knowledge about menstrual cycle, harassment from male-dominated society and lack of proper support and channelization of platform for women issues inside Jammu and Kashmir.
“we have to fight all alone, we are being rapidly victimized by unknown phone calls and we have suffered humiliations in public transport, If we report in police, we have to think 100- times, because instead of a speed query, they are asking questions to us and it takes months for the concern to solve the problem, which we cannot openly debate with our parents also.
At this juncture of Internet development, assurance of safety and security by Honorable Prime-Minster of India, still a woman is merely treated an object of humiliation. We have thousand of council, Ministries and NGO’s working on women rights. Still it is only a woman, who is being raped, molested, sexually- abused and harassed, but all alone she has to suffer this cycle of victimization.
“It is very difficult for us to travel in public-transport and wait for buses at Bus-stops for our college and tuitions, because bikers, or man travelling in the buses gazing us with the eyes of lust and even try to rub their hands on us”, state government has totally failed for empowering the status of woman. Moreover obscene calls is being a trend followed by Courier boys, College students, Recharge-vendors, Job-Placement centers and local property dealers”
Recently, woman Executive coordinator of CEEOIndia, received obscene calls and perhaps every department in Government of India especially PMO Office has been updated with the complaint filed and the same complaint has been filed with Jammu and Kashmir police, but a woman have to wait decades to get social justice in the society. Still action is pending, and Offices of CM J&K, Div-com Jammu has also briefed with the complaint and action is wandering in mere promises of “Beti-Bachao-Beti-Padhao-Anthem.”
This summer, Sheikh Nosheen, is going to adopt 2000 poor and maximum orphan girls, across rural villages of Jammu and Kashmir State for their education and empowerment and going to take the Swachh-Bharat Mission, Woman rights , Menstrual Education with support from DWSLG across the villages of Jammu and Kashmir especially Poonch, Rajouri and Jammu regions. Recently she has donated her Birthday for the cause of cancer patients and distributed woman-menstrual kits among poor and vulnerable population in Jammu particularly migratory labors and apart from all these efforts, still a woman is merely treating as object of victimization.
It is only woman, who have to travel kilometers in search of fresh-drinking water and for the sake of family, a woman have to fight everyday with her faith, responsibilities and social boundaries, designed by the hegemony of Male’s. Government of India especially His Excellency Shri NARENDAR Modi Ji, The Prime-Minster has to take it as wake-up call with all the departments to fight for the survival of woman first.
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The writer is Mehreen Hussain, Social-Work Fellow (South-Bank University) working in communication department of CEEOIndia HQS, New-Delhi and incidents have been communicated by District Project coordinators of CEEOINDIA across J&K
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